Chinese Wedding

 May 30, 2019


I had a dream in which I found myself marrying a good friend of mine who happened to be Chinese. Interestingly, my feelings for him weren't romantic; our families had come to an agreement for us to marry for six years primarily for tax benefits. It seemed to be a practical arrangement that would greatly assist his businesses and help my family as well.


Funny enough, I didn't actually make it to the wedding ceremony, and someone stood in for me! However, I did attend the reception. My mom had bought me a beautiful dress for the occasion, but I found myself complaining to another friend because it wasn't a traditional wedding gown. Surprisingly, I didn't seem to mind the idea of marrying, knowing it was temporary, and I had complete trust in my friend.


Throughout the dream, I could see the faces of the men I had loved in my life—they were fond memories, and I felt no regrets. 


When I woke up, I thought about how lovely the dress was and how spoiled I must seem! The meaning of the dream eludes me, though. Traditionally, weddings symbolize a form of death, suggesting we're gathering for a significant reason. 


I also reflected on the cultural responsibilities that come with various backgrounds. The Chinese, like every nation, have their own set of responsibilities, just as Aboriginal beliefs emphasize.


In my personal thoughts:

- Diversity is a priority for me, and I feel it’s part of my calling to advocate against racism and injustice.

- My mom has taught me a lot, especially about how to present myself. I believe that every decision we make is guided by our ancestors, and sometimes we don’t listen to their wisdom. The wedding in my dream felt like an agreement rather than a spiritual ceremony.


This reflects how we engage with the land we are responsible for, our children, our traditions, our lives, and our prayers.


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