Laws of Matriarch

I want to organize a burning to feed the spirits right here in Vancouver. This is something I deeply feel called to do. As I reflect on the efforts we’ve made to change the systemic racism and lower barriers for Aboriginal people in BC, I can’t help but ask—has anything really changed? The hatred and racism that surround us present a significant challenge for me as an Aboriginal woman.  Most of the time, I manage to complete my Aboriginal projects, even if there’s a bit of anxiety and resistance that comes along with them. But sometimes, I feel overwhelmed by the socially accepted oppression in Canada, and I find myself stopping in my tracks. When I need to do something for our community, it’s not easy. Today, I’m struggling because every so often, I wonder if I’m next. Is it the full moon that brings these thoughts to the surface, urging me to confront my fears? All I want is a safe place to pray, free from the worry of police stomping out my fire and threatening to charge me. Wi...

Reflections on Culture, Spirituality, and the Role of Matriarchy Today, we had a significant discussion about culture, spirituality, and our pledge to uphold our traditions. It was a conversation filled with questions, and I left feeling concerned about some of the generalizations that were made. There are so many beautiful and diverse ways to practice our culture and to pray. The focus of our discussion with the women I spoke with centered around matriarchy and respect. One of the main concerns we talked about was, “Where are these beliefs coming from?” There seem to be so many new rules and ideas that I’ve never heard of before. For example, I’ve heard that women are not allowed to drum, that women serve but don’t lead, that women have never been chiefs, and that we are supposed to follow our fathers. I’ve also heard that only chiefs are allowed to wear blankets. I worry that many of these laws and practices are moving forward without consulting women. Most decisions are based heavil...

I know I’ve said this before, but I want to say it again. We follow the laws of the matriarch. If your mother is Gitxsan, then you are Gitxsan. You belong to your mother’s house. If your mom is Scottish, then you’re Scottish. It’s important to respect our mothers and know who you are. Nations can disappear when traditional laws aren’t upheld.  If someone claims to be Gitxsan, ask them who their mother is to confirm their identity.  Being adopted doesn’t automatically make someone Gitxsan. Those who are adopted have dual citizenship and can practice Gitxsan traditions, but they don’t have the hereditary lineage or title that comes from being born into our culture.  Let’s honor our roots and keep our traditions strong.